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Cluster B personality disordersPeople that have no compunction about using their kids to hurt their exes seem to fit the profile of the emotionally abusive Cluster B personality disorders (Borderline Personality Disorder, narcissistic personality disorder, Antisocial Personality Disorder). Many of these individuals play the professional victim as they emotionally bully anyone who confronts, challenges or criticizes them. They don’t recognize appropriate boundaries, won’t accept personal responsibility for their actions—in fact, they blame you for the horrible things they do and always have an excuse to justify their indefensible behaviors.

professional-victimIf your ex is actively or passively trying to discredit or alienate your child(ren)’s normal love and respect toward you, he or she was probably emotionally abusive while you were together. Parental attempts to undermine your relationship with your child  is her or his way of continuing to abuse and hurt you via remote access. i.e. using the child, family and friends to take a stand against you. Generally, most bullies don’t see themselves as such. If you confront your ex about this behavior, they’ll deny it and blame you for your deteriorating relationship with your child(ren), even as you make every effort to be a present and involved parent.

The parent who engages in alienation tactics enlists your children to take on his or her battle against you. This is not the act of a responsible, mature adult, much less a responsible, loving parent.

parental alienationThe only way to stop a bully is with the threat of a greater authority. Appealing to their “better nature” is futile. Emotionally abusive bullies don’t have a better nature. Attorneys and the courts will probably need to be involved as well as an UNBIASED children’s therapist and a lot of documentation. If you believe you’re the target of parental alienation, I encourage you to educate yourself about it and to know, protect and fight for your rights.






Cluster B personality disorders

DSM-5: The Ten Personality Disorders: Cluster B ..

Hallmarks of narcissistic personality disorder – BPD Central

Parents Who Have Successfully Fought Parental Alienation

Parental Alienation – paawareness.org

The Psychology of Emotional Bullying

The Impact of Parental Alienation on Children | Psychology

The Professional Victim – Experience Project

We all know a professional victim

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