The clues to truth and deception are everywhere… can you spot them?How much deceit do we encounter? On a given day, studies show, you may be lied to anywhere from 10 to 200 times. Now granted, many of those are white lies. Another study showed that strangers lied three times within the first 10 minutes of meeting each other.
Liespotting reveals the sophisticated lie-detection methods of security experts and interrogators, and arms you with proven techniques to detect deception and build trust.
After an epiphany at her Harvard reunion, Pamela Meyer, a Certified Fraud Examiner, embarked on a three-year research adventure to discover how and why people deceive. She shares much of what she learned so fraud examiners can become liespotters.
You’re seated across from Stan in the interview room, and all you can think of are the immortal words of George Costanza’: “Just remember, it’s not a lie if you believe it.” You think Stan is about to tell you some big fibs about his possible involvement in a company embezzlement, but how will you tell? Pamela Meyer can help.
Meyer, a CFE and author of the bestselling book, “Liespotting: Proven Techniques to Detect Deception,” can give you a holistic approach that will indicate if Stan is a believable liar, unbelievably lying or both. She can show how to watch for his telltale facial expressions and body language. She can teach you 10 questions to get him to tell you anything you want. And she can show you methods to parse Stan’s words. However, the methods she’ll give you aren’t parlor tricks. They’re part of a scientifically grounded system for ferreting out deception.
Meye says she accidentally walked into the world of deception detection five years ago when she attended her 20th year reunion at Harvard Business School.
“I took a workshop at this reunion with 350 of my classmates where a professor detailed his findings on how people behave when they are being deceptive,” she says. “What they do with their posture, their purses, their backpacks, their language structure, their smiles. I witnessed something you rarely see. For 45 minutes, 350 high-level, busy people were riveted. No one was tapping at their Blackberries. No one was running to the hall to start a conference call.
“People, who thought they had seen it all, were learning something completely new and useful,” Meyer says. “When I witnessed this unusual moment of executive silence, I knew I had happened onto something transformational.” She says she set out to immerse herself in learning techniques for spotting deception that intelligence, security, law enforcement and espionage agencies had developed and were using.
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These techniques will also help you gain a lasting advantage in business and dramatically improve your personal relationships by learning to decode the body language, facial expressions, words and actions of everyone you encounter.
Pamela Meyer is founder and CEO of Calibrate, a leading deception detection training company, and of social networking company Simpatico Networks. She holds an MBA from Harvard, an MA in Public Policy from Claremont Graduate School, and is a Certified Fraud Examiner. She has extensive training in the use of visual clues and psychology to detect deception.
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Writing and talk do not prove me, I carry the plenum of proof and every thing else in my face —Walt Whitman, “Song of Myself”
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